Jayson Gaddis is … so … cool. I’m always happy to have the opportunity to be with him, learn from him, and share with him. I hope you enjoy.
What is men’s work? Most people are unclear what this term means, but once you find out, you’ll be cheering on men who are involved in it. In this podcast, I interview one of the key players in the largest men’s organizations in the world. We cover some very intimate subjects, including #metoo, fatherhood, and the power of getting together as men.
This conversation introduces some of the themes and frames of our inquiry into masculinity. We start with some conceptual discussion of gender as distinct from biological sex — the interplay of biology and culture to produce gender, and a third element as well: the transhuman origin of archetypes and stories. Not only do we tell our stories, our stories tell us. Therefore, we arrive at the defining question of this course: It’s not what masculinity is outside of culture, outside of story. It is, What is the next story of the masculine? What are we ready to step into?
Then we go into some more ground-level issues: fatherhood, initiation, role models, and the New Warrior Training of the Mankind Project. We discuss the importance of relationships with other men, a ‘circle of men’ as Bill Kauth calls it, for a man to abide in a mature masculinity.
Finally we zoom back out again to take on masculinity and the detachment from materiality. What are we in service to? Could it be that the same unwillingness to hear and see women is related to our obliviousness to the needs of Mother Earth? What would civilization and technology look like, if instead of imposing a design onto nature, we listened first to what the land wants, what the water wants, what the trees want, seeking no longer to harness, dominate, and transcend materiality, but to make love to materiality?
A Conversation with Boysen Hodgson
Session 1 Recording
Questions for Study, Meditation, and Discussion
1. Is there something in you of the Warrior that is not about aggression and domination? Or could there be a proper and right expression of aggression, which after all is part of nature, that is in service to life? Is this an aspect of our nature that we must suppress, or does it have a healthy expression?
2. Freedom from approval-seeking is often an important aspect of initiation into manhood — to quote from Iron Hans, it is the reclaiming of the key from under Mother’s pillow. But in our society, many of us are not fully liberated from approval-seeking. Therefore, we are not fully sovereign. Consider the quote from the live call:
”This constant seeking of permission to be a man is generative of abuse of women. When we can source our masculinity without seeking approval only then can we be truly an empowered man.”
And look at the following pattern: Approval-seeking → loss of sovereignty → resentment → aggression → shame → approval-seeking. Think about the extent approval-seeking influences your life, what may have freed you from it, who you are without it, and how to liberate others from it.
I was happy to have the opportunity to site with Dan Doty, cofounder of the ‘Evryman’ organization, recently featured in a Men’s Health Magazine article. “Inside the Retreat Where Men Purge Toxic Emotions” – see the article there and the shoutout to the ManKind Project in the article.
“What would the world be like if you could look into the eyes of another man and not be afraid?” – Boysen Hodgson
Boysen is the Communications Director for the ManKind Project. MKP is a globally established men’s community for the 21st century. They have been offering men’s trainings and peer-led men’s groups for 30 years and have impacted hundreds of thousands of men.
On this episode Dan and Boysen explore the issues men are facing today, and offer a ton of simple and powerful ways to show up, engage, and get involved. You can find out everything MKP at this link, and key into their New Warrior Training Adventure.