I work with individuals, groups, and organizations on shifting the culture of manhood toward collective care.
I do this because I believe that social-emotional development for boys and men is the only thing that will pull us back from self-destruction.
I’ve been working with men, facilitating “men’s work,” and building bridges for cultural transformation for over two decades in progressive personal development organizations.
In 2010, I wrote “The New Macho,” a credo for healthy masculinity that struck a chord with some people. It’s been shared over 50,000 times and republished in numerous blogs, magazines, and books. I am an utterly imperfect man. I work at being a loving, present, and supportive husband and a good Dad.
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What is ‘Men’s Work?’
Men’s work is consciously unlearning and relearning what it is to be a man; it’s physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual, and cultural.
Manhood is a result; the outcome of a complex interaction of social, family, educational, physical, institutional, religious, and political systems.
The inputs vary widely over time and over multiple dimensions of lived experience. The work calls us together to wrestle with our individual experiences and with our shared experiences to make conscious and caring choices about what we want to see in the world.
I believe it’s up to us – men taking responsibility together – doing HEART and SOUL work of waking up, growing up, and showing up for ourselves, for the women and children in our lives, for our communities and our planet.
This is what makes a difference. This is what is ultimately needed now to help solve our collective problems and heal our collective ills. My heart has to be on board before the big shifts can happen.
Each day the need for good men grows.
The people we love … men, women and children everywhere … are crying out for men strong enough to be accountable and vulnerable, brave enough to lead with compassion, and adventurous enough to change the story of masculinity – to evolve a healthier way for men.
Why this work?
- Because men who fiercely strive to widen their awareness and deal with the HARD STUFF create the masterworks that move us forward.
- Because men with a deep and abiding sense of purpose build stronger, more resilient families, communities, and companies.
- Because men with healthy and emotionally mature ways of relating live longer, are happier, healthier, more successful by every measure, and more connected.
What is the evidence?
- A study by Brigham Young University showed that loneliness and disconnection are more deadly than smoking or obesity.
- The longest running study of men ever conducted – the Harvard Grant Study – shows that the best predictor of a man’s success in life is the quality of his close relationships.
- A 2.5 year Google study showed that the highest performing teams have a special magic … psychological safety … that trumps and amplifies every other success factor.
- Because the fastest growing cause of death for men aged 45-60 is suicide.
Overcome Isolation.
Nurture incredible relationships.
Create magic at work and at home.
Change our expectations for what is possible.
Bring hope, relief, and possibility.
So when you participate in and support men’s work like that being done by the ManKind Project … you’re supporting a new way of being for men, and hope … for better communities, happier and healthier people, and a brighter future.
