The New Macho – a Credo for the Mature Masculine

The New Macho

He cleans up after himself.
He cleans up the planet.
He is a role model for young men.
He is rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic.

He holds himself accountable.
He knows what he feels.
He knows how to cry and he lets it go.
He knows how to rage without hurting others.
He knows how to fear and how to keep moving.
He seeks self-mastery.

He’s let go of childish shame.
He feels guilty when he’s done something wrong.
He is kind to men, kind to women, kind to children.
He teaches others how to be kind.
He says he’s sorry.

He stopped blaming women or his parents or men for his pain years ago.
He stopped letting his defenses ruin his relationships.
He stopped letting his penis run his life.
He has enough self respect to tell the truth.
He creates intimacy and trust with his actions.
He has men that he trusts and that he turns to for support.
He knows how to roll with it.
He knows how to make it happen.
He is disciplined when he needs to be.
He is flexible when he needs to be.
He knows how to listen from the core of his being.

He’s not afraid to get dirty.
He’s ready to confront his own limitations.
He has high expectations for himself and for those he connects with.
He looks for ways to serve others.
He knows he is an individual.
He knows that we are all one.
He knows he is an animal and a part of nature.
He knows his spirit and his connection to something greater.

He knows future generations are watching his actions.
He builds communities where people are respected and valued.
He takes responsibility for himself.
In times of need, he will be his brother’s keeper.

He knows his higher purpose.
He loves with fierceness.
He laughs with abandon, because he gets the joke.

This is a picture of mature masculine, of healthy masculinity – it is one redefinition of masculinity for the 21st century. By no means is this list complete. You are welcome to come and add your gifts to this community.

©2010 Boysen Hodgson. All rights reserved.
Used with permission by the ManKind Project.

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Manhood, Masculinity, & Meaning – from Women In Depth with Lourdes Viado

Manhood, Masculinity, & Meaning – from Women In Depth with Lourdes Viado

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • What is the meaning of masculinity and why does it matter?
  • The importance of finding a place where the context of your existence is made sense of
  • Why the biggest journey a man can take is the 18 inches from his brain to his heart
  • What is a man’s armor and how is it preventing him from doing his “shadow work”?
  • Are you a candidate for the New Warrior Training Adventures?

Recorded in March 2018

The Valhalla Movement – Marc Coppola

The Valhalla Movement – Marc Coppola

Boysen Hodgson, the Communications & Marketing Director for the nonprofit ManKind Project USA sits down with Marc Coppola to discuss the shifting ideas and ideals of being a “man” in today’s world – and some of the issues that change-agents like we at Valhala face. The ManKind Project has weekend trainings creating “New Warriors,” a huge network of men’s groups all over the world, and a mission of helping men find purpose in community to become the leaders and role models we need in today’s world. The Mankind Project is an interesting initiative looking to help people break the stereotypes of rigid gender roles, and help men and women be the people they want to be. We talk about finding and confronting the obstacles to fully living – including purpose work. You’ll be surprised at how this connects so fully to the work we’re doing at Valhala. From March 2014.